Growing Up Black in America – Marriage

Marriage is the most sacred relationship that we have and has been around for centuries. It is a part of most cultures and forms the foundation for creating a family. For black American families it is the cornerstone of existence. When a man finds a woman and begins to date he can find himself falling […]

Growing Up Black in America – Marriage

Marriage is the most sacred relationship that we have and has been around for centuries. It is a part of most cultures and forms the foundation for creating a family. For black American families it is the cornerstone of existence.

When a man finds a woman and begins to date he can find himself falling in love. Hopefully this feeling is mutual and the two begin to spend more time together. As they grow closer the desire to form a family grows and they decide to marriage. This marriage is typically founded in love and can last a lifetime.

Black Americans have grown up in a particular marriage culture. Consider the following:

1) The husband is the head of the house and protector of his family. As culture has evolved more and more husbands have abdicated their responsibilities and left their families to fend for themselves. This has proven to be evident in the black family. Men have had babies and then left the mothers to care for them all on their own. Their children grow up without the benefit of a fathers love and direction. This makes it that much more difficult for their children to enter life fully prepared to succeed.

2) The wife is the foundation to holding the house together. She is both the partner to the husband and the main figure for the children in the home. Because of the departure of so many black men from their families the wives are forced to become both father and mother. Many times they work, come home and keep the house all the while raising and educating the children. Do they get tired? Yes. But do they do it anyway? Yes.

3) Children that grow up in black families typically find a lot of love. For those who have both parents they will see strength, courage, commitment and dedication to the family dynamic. If they do have to grow up with just the love of one parent they still know the benefits of struggle. Many go on to achieve great things in their lives. The key is knowing who you are, where you have come from and where you are going.

Even with all the obstacles that many black families face it is clear that the family structure is still going strong in the current culture setting. For those who get the benefit of having a solid family and pursuing a great education to have a great career the path is clear.

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